Technology has given so much to make things easier and instant. Just think of communication – we can text, IM or email and get immediate replies, regardless of what we or the person we’re talking to are doing. Best yet, we don’t even have to use words; we can just send an emoji. 😘 Everything is instant. But when it comes to romance (or relationships in general), should things be this instant?
It’s great that you send your partner a little picture during the day so that they know you’re thinking about them 👋, but that’s not romance, not real romance. We’re not trying to take anything away from technology; we’re just saying that we shouldn’t let it get the better of our romantic selves. Hence, we’d like to reintroduce the art of love letters.
Love letters are thoughtful, expressive and filled with emotion. They take time to create and mould. When you write a letter, you say what is on your mind and in your heart, you devote time to the person you are writing. Not only are you penning down thoughts to send to your loved one, but at the same time, you’ll enjoy the therapeutic release of your pen gracefully dancing on paper.
A love letter does something few other things can; it allows you to shower your partner with romance. Something that we so rarely enjoy nowadays. So, this year, put your phone away, find beautiful paper and take some time to court your lover.
Tell them with all honesty and sincerity how much they mean to you. Tell them about the silly things they do that bring you joy, how you smile when you’re together and share memories that you hold dear to your heart.
Need inspiration? Here are extracts of some of the greatest love letters ever written.
I can’t say how every time I ever put my arms around you I felt that I was home.
Ernest Hemingway to Marlene Dietrich
This should be a very easy letter to write — words should come easily and in short it should be simple for me to tell you how desperately happy I was to open the paper and see the announcement of our engagement, but somehow I can’t possibly say all in a letter I should like to. I love you, precious, with all my heart and to know that you love me means my life.
George H. Bush to Barbara Bush
Everyone is furious with me for going back to you, but they don’t understand us. I feel that it is only with you that I can do anything at all. Do remake my ruined life for me, and then our friendship and love will have a different meaning to the world. I wish that when we met at Rouen we had not parted at all. There are such wide abysses now of space and land between us. But we love each other.
Oscar Wilde to Lord Alfred Douglas
But oh my dear, I can’t be clever and stand-offish with you: I love you too much for that. Too truly. You have no idea how stand-offish I can be with people I don’t love. I have brought it to a fine art. But you have broken down my defences. And I don’t really resent it.
Vita Sackville-West to Virginia Woolf
My love has made me selfish. I cannot exist without you – I am forgetful of everything but seeing you again – my Life seems to stop there – I see no further. You have absorb’d me. I have a sensation at the present moment as though I was dissolving – I should be exquisitely miserable without the hope of soon seeing you. I should be afraid to separate myself far from you.
John Keats to Fanny Brawne
We get old and get used to each other. We think alike. We read each other’s minds. We know what the other wants without asking. Sometimes we irritate each other a little bit. Maybe sometimes take each other for granted.
But once in a while, like today, I meditate on it and realise how lucky I am to share my life with the greatest woman I ever met. You still fascinate and inspire me.
Johnny Cash to June Carter Cash
Time passes swiftly, but is it not joyous to see how great and growing is the treasure we have gathered together, amid the storms and stresses of so many eventful and, to millions, tragic and terrible years?
Winston Churchill to Clementine Churchill
I am in such haste that I know not what I write, but I do know that I love you more tenderly than ever; that the pain of this separation was necessary to convince me how very dear you are to me, and that I would give at this moment half my existence for the pleasure of embracing you again, and telling you with my own lips how well I love you.
Marquis de Lafayette to Madame de Lafayette
Remember, it doesn’t matter if you’re not a poet or the world’s best speller, what matters is that you’re honest and that you convey your true feelings of love and devotion for your partner. Make your love letter extra sweet, by partnering it with decadent chocolates to nibble on while they read. (It’s also been found that chocolate helps inspire thoughts of romance, so maybe try a few treats while you write. Don’t worry about munching too much, My Chocolate Box is filled to the brim with divine deliciousness.)